Don't Use The Term "Gay" For "Bad"
by SAB on Jul.20, 2009, under News
In GURPS terms, you get an immediate and probably permanent -3 reaction from me (and most other gay people) if you use “Gay” as a pejorative. For example:
“I just got fired.”
“That’s pretty gay.”
A Barista at Starbucks recently told me something similar was gay while he was making a drink, and I’ve pretty much written him off my list of people I care about – I give him the cold shoulder now. Now, if the Barista was saying “Rufus Wainwright is pretty gay” (he is of course) in a positive sense, then I could see it. But the kind of negative connotation implied by his usage basically says “being gay is a negative.”
Harsh? Maybe. But to me using the “Gay” negatively is like using the “N” word. It’s unacceptable, always.
July 20th, 2009 on 9:42 PM
I have to admit I got that habit back when I was last in new jersey visiting my relatives. Reading this, i will be more conscious about it.
July 21st, 2009 on 6:38 PM
On behalf of gay people everywhere, thanks
August 3rd, 2009 on 1:02 PM
I’m 44 and I get this. Why can’t I break my 17 year old of using the word gay as a pejorative. Maybe its because I have gay friends and colleges. And he just hears the same old thing at school, “That’s gay!”. It just frustrates the hell out of me.
Cuddy
August 30th, 2009 on 7:12 AM
If you kid meets any gay friends along his travels, odds are he’ll stop using the term. I usually drive it home to people by reminding them that it’s as bad as the “N’ word. Good luck with your kid!
September 26th, 2010 on 9:17 PM
This Post is frickin GAY!!